If your daughter is pregnant again at age 18, do you continue to take care of her responsibilities, how do you say NO?

I am going to answer this hub in order to shed a little light on the situation....here goes. The question was asked,"If your daughter is pregnant again at 18 do you continue to take care of her responsibilities,how do i say no?" I don't have a family background to go by and I don't know your child's case history,but It is possible to try and give my opinion and advise from one mom to another. We see that the question implies that your daughter is having another child, it does not state how many prior pregnancies she has had between the ages of let's say....16 to 18years of age. I will guess that this will be your second grandchild that will be arriving soon. I see in your statement you use the word continue,so this too tells me that you have shared in your child's responsibilities in the past.As I read further,you go on to ask the question..."how do I say no" this tells me that you no longer want to share in your daughter's child rearing responsibilities even though she is still a child herself.

Grandmother to be...(again) Your child needs all the help,love and support she can get her hands on. I will assume that you too as her mom has a lot going on in your own hectic life. We as women have to deal with our jobs,kids,relationships, home and all types of incoming and outgoing surprises that life brings,and on top of all this! we must keep a smile on our face....LOL This is why your daughter still needs her capable mother to stand by her side to help her to understand what it takes to become a good mom and a well rounded woman.Your daughter also needs your expertise on how to cope with mistakes that she will make in life.

Society will tell you that when a female reaches the age of eighteen that she is an adult woman,and when a male reaches the age of twenty one he is now a grown man...this to me is so funny. Society does not take into consideration the young adults cognitive age,or their mental age. Parents tend to feed into whatever society thinks,feels, or says is the gospel truth. This is why we have so many children forced out of the comforts of home and pushed into the streets to fend for dear life. It seems obvious to me that your child though she is 18 years of age and has had a child already and is going to have another soon,.. she has no help from the babies father...I'm assuming.Your daughter is not thinking very clear at all. You have to remember just three years ago she was just fifteen years old. Some children are not on the same levels when it comes to maturity. Is you daughter a good mom? is she a party girl? how is she with her other child or children? is she in school? does she work? is the father of the children in her life? is her father a part of her life? these are many questions that I have to ask in order to understand your child's level of maturity. Only you as her mom can answer these questions on behalf your daughter's situation,and in doing so you will plainly see that your child still need you to stand by her side on this one.

Yes you have to support your kids until you know that they have what it takes to become the movers and shakers and awesome parent themselves....or until we as parents breath our last breath. It's so odd to me when you take a vow in marriage you include...till death do we part. but when it come to your own child your ready to through out the babies with the bath water..strange. I'm sure your a good granny and you may still have pep in your step! you might also be thinking that it's time for you to have your own Garden Of Eden now! and your right, it is your time to live! but you as a mother must continue to be your child's teacher until she gets it right,and that's all to it.....sorry.

Don't you want to assure the safety and the well being of your grandchildren? Don't you want to know that the mother (your daughter) of your grand babies has her act together,before you cut her cord?.... and there is no need for you to worry because you have taught her everything you know about being a great mom,and in knowing this you can sleep sound at night.(right) So if this means that you have to help share in all her responsibilities until she can swing it by herself so be it. You do want to assure ...don't you? Do you really want to say no? if you say no to your child and she still needs you,you are not saying no to her you're saying no to the grand children. They are the ones that will suffer from your no. I feel that you are a good mom and you love your daughter! and you want her to take responsibility for her adult actions....believe me I do understand .Your child is not ready to stand alone she can't at least not at this present time in her life. Your child has yet to grow up, even though she's a mom already,but 18 years old does not say that your ready to be a parent just because you have a baby. I say continue to help her because she still need you.

God Bless.