12 Reasons Why You Should Leave Your Relationship
84Knowing When To Walk Away
Many people in relationships are stuck in time-lines with there partners,not knowing the right moment when it's healthy to leave the partnership. We meet caring,intelligent and beautiful people all the time! these wonderful people know how to bring out the best in you. They open car doors! they're pleasing too the eye! they hold interesting conversations! and will pick up a phone to call you the very next day.''Oh what bliss''. What's a time-line?....a time-line can start with the first hello, in that short half of a second you will know if this is going to workout or not. Time -Lines can last for years on end, Seconds,Minutes,Hours....Days,Months,and Years form relationship time-lines. The problem for most is not knowing when yours is up! Most of you are in relationships that sound too good to be true! It looks better than your last partnership! It feels fantastic! And the Taste in like nothing you've ever experienced ! all these familiar habits can cloud your good judgement and keep you trapped in a time-line that has run out. People move on their pleasure points! leaving the thinking brain on the sidelines. So what happened to all that magic?....you don't hold hands anymore, you would dance the night away to your special song, the passion in your first kiss...do you remember? Sister Patterson will be the first to tell you,"Hold on to a grounded relationship! because a good partner is so very hard to find" but! time passes on in and Knowing when to walk away for your own self preservation is key. 1. You find yourself opening your own car door when out on a date ,when you first started dating you didn't have to open your on door,so why are you doing it now? if your partners arm is not in a sling you should not be opening your own door.2. the fine dining experience has turned into a cold sandwich and beer ,listen I tell you loud and clear! don't you dare put up with this type of nonsense...when you began dating you ate lobster,now your crunching on sodium crackers! not a good sign. 3. your pet name is no longer baby! honey! boo boo! or sugar plum! now the sweet names have turned into four letter foul mouth names that a cat wouldn't even use. 4. tightening of the purse string.This is a major strike out! when you first started dating the sky was the limit to all your spending and buying possibilities, all you had do is blink your eye like a genii and it was granted to you,Now you have to jump through rings of fire! do the moon walk blind folded!,and scratch a pigs back ! 5. respect has flown out the window, everybody knows your personal business, Both of you are now hiding in the bathroom talking in code on the phone,you hear care pulls up in the driveway , you slam the phone back on it's receiver ,all respect has vanished. 6. addictions. you can not stay in a relationship when your partner is repetitively doing the same behaviors over,and over time after time.No matter what his or her addiction may be...drugs, alcohol,food,lying, stealing,cheating,shopping,gambling.It just will not work in the ending results. 7. not coming home at night Now you know your time -line is up.Never listen to the working late at the office story!,because if you do...you will be the one with red eyes. 8. trust is shattered Nobody goes into a partnership not trusting the person they're getting to know.If you do inter into a relationship and you all ready have trust issues ,your time-line is over before it started. 9. counseling has not helped your situation.When you have been counselled by your doctor, pastor,and the wise old owl you call mother,and none of this has helped you,and your partner ! it is time to move on.people can always give you good advise,but if you don't take it...that's on you. 10. the relationship starts to turn abusive.This is the number reason you should leave your partner....I shouldn't have to go into depth with this one.... some signs of abuse.Punching,hitting,slapping,kicking,,biting,yelling, pulling,pushing,verbal,mental .Please get out of this type of garbage .11. not doing a thing for the children. When your partner won't take care of his ,or her children ,these people are not worth knowing! do not waist your time-line with when at all. If you inter into a relation and one or the other has a child....make up your mind quick! on what it is you plan to do,are you going to leave or stay! consider the child's feelings, they are a big part of this partnership too. Don't come around for a month ,and the child starts warming up to you,and now you don't come around anymore! know from the start,what your plans are.....or step off. 12. your partner wants to keep you away from your family and friends.Oh please!!!!.... Too many times family ,and close friend relationships have been destroyed by the person you found on the street ,in a club, on the job, and at church . You have brought them into your family and friend structures . Now everything is off balanced! your new partner wants you to keep away from your family...and your best childhood friend ....lol DON'T STAY IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP DUE TO OLD FEELINGS ,YOUR TIME -LINE IS UP...WALK AWAY AND NEVER LOOK BACK. God Bless.
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So True Mom!
Hi Michelle,
What you say is so true. I have seen this happen to people I love time and time again. Makes me want to pull my hair out. ;p I can relate to so many of the things you have said and before I married my husband of 12 years I made sure that the spark was there in previous relationships and if it sputtered it was time to move on, learn from it and never look back. :)
Love to you Michelle, God Bless.
Patricia
Thanks!!!! I'm considering ending a relationship and you points are very " to the point". What a great help.
i am not there ...yet,thank God..lovely writting
All your reasons are great, personally, the reason why i'm not in a relationship right now is that I love the feeling to be free, to do whatever I want and when I want. If I can get some free days, I can go where I want without asking someone and planning free days with someone else :)
God Bless,
Have a great day!
So far away from me, thanks god, but it is good to know it is there.
article is superb.
Till now i think if u want to leave a relationship then make urself so so bsy.
Thanks!!!! I'm considering ending a relationship and you points are very " to the point". What a great help.
Some of your points seem rather sexist. Why exactly would a man have to open a woman's door? And about the 'lobster diner', why should one person expect the other to provide such a thing to him/her? If a guy had the expectations that a woman washes the dishes, why is it deemed as sexist but on the other hand feeding a woman with lobsters and opening doors a necessity?
You will experience a lot of the same "signs" you list as reasons to walk away again and again. It's like telling people the signs to purchase a new car are when the car they are driving no longer squirts water on the windshield when you press a button or becomes hard to see clearly out the windshield, runs out of gas etc. You have to service your vehicle or it will break down- sometimes it happens out of the blue. The solution is not to abandon it, you might try refilling the fluid, fuel, wiping the windows or whatever the case may be. If it's beyond your ability to fix, call a mechanic before you call a tow truck! Unless you've got it like that and don't mind reinvesting everytime you have a light come on then I don't know what to tell you except good luck! Same goes for relationships. Invest in the one you've got before you trash it. Best of luck.
Shoooo weeeeee, hectic chats going on here. Just thought I. Might add a little of my experiance on internet dating... Knowing full of what we looked like.... He decided to. Board a plane fron the USA to south africa... We jumped into eachothers arm... First official. Meeting face to. Face. Put it this way it. Was as if we had known eachother forever!!!! Went. Away with. Him on a safarie and to 6 star palace. He adored me... And proposed the next day :) ................. Let's just say that when I finaly. Got myvisa and moved to. The. USA things changed for the works... He was. Mean and disrespectful to me... Called me a whore and trash and physical... When your husdand tell. You that you disgust him!!!! Run for the hills...... I. Now know he never loved me... He was obsessed with me! Happy to say in. South africa with the people who treasure me :)
Shoooo weeeeee, hectic chats going on here. Just thought I. Might add a little of my experiance on internet dating... Knowing full of what we looked like.... He decided to. Board a plane fron the USA to south africa... We jumped into eachothers arm... First official. Meeting face to. Face. Put it this way it. Was as if we had known eachother forever!!!! Went. Away with. Him on a safarie and to 6 star palace. He adored me... And proposed the next day :) ................. Let's just say that when I finaly. Got myvisa and moved to. The. USA things changed for the works... He was. Mean and disrespectful to me... Called me a whore and trash and physical... When your husdand tell. You that you disgust him!!!! Run for the hills...... I. Now know he never loved me... He was obsessed with me! Happy to say in. South africa with the people who treasure me :)
I am in a relationship now that I have been off and on with for more than 5 years. We started dating while we were in high school and ended up having a daughter before I graduated high school. I was lucky enough to go to my dream school and had a chance to play football there too. My girlfriend would call me every chance she could to tell me how I should not be at school or playing football in direct and indirect ways. So I ended up quitting school and football and we moved to a town closer to where we grew up. after about half a year living together we broke up which threw me into a very bad depression. I actually spent the next year and a half and two years worth of tuition on being in and out with a therapist for my depression. So now after I have been forced to quit school yet again and move back to my home town and am now living with her and my daughter, I am really coming to where I really don't know if this is right for me. I really want to do the right thing for my daughter and I fear without me around as much and the break up of her mother and I could be detrimental for her. please help
alright so to start i'm going to put that i'm a guy, just to be clear. alright now for seconds i'm going to show you how stupid some of your reasons are.
1. You find yourself opening your own car door when out on a date: really? if a girl looked at me and asked why i didn't open her door i'd be getting out of that relationship really quickly. to me that screams "overly high expectations".
2. the fine dining experience has turned into a cold sandwich and beer: anybody who could offord lobster wouldn't offer you a "cold sandwich and a beer". so i'm sure by that you mean average person food. meaning you just sound like a spoiled brat.
4. tightening of the purse string: alright now this is just being a spoiled brat.
7. not coming home at night: what guys can't have fun? just because a guy is out doesn't mean he's cheating on you. and besides, if he was it was probably because of you.
Not only is this article riddled with grammar, spelling, and punctuation errors, the author has no idea what she's talking about.
So ture!!
This teaching has major flaus! I cant be bothered explaining why... heak im typing with one hand atm, but all i have to say is love God before you love a partner and with that the Lord will direct you what to do.
By the looks of some of these reasons it seems woman are very materialistic and its not love that they want but wealth.
It is easy to remark about the money issues raised, you are most probably the ones who beat women to make them selves feel bigger... And come from a place where only men are allowed to work, so the role and independence of a woman is exploited, where they are brainwashed in to thinking that a woman is somehow inferior to a man ...keep hiding behind the money boys... If that's all you have (which is usually a lie anyway) If a man has a lot of money, it is not unfair for a woman to expect the right to it, just as if they were poor, the woman would still be happy, as long as treated as equals...that is the point being made here, and any one reading who wants to pretend they can not see the real meaning of these comments, well, I am sorry for people like you....men trying to use money to control a woman is sick....and usually ugly btw inside and out.
First comment Your Hot. A personal reflection on what Im about to say. I believe from a male perspective that a lot of women are jaded. Not saying all are, but there comes a time when the bear and the buckwheat come togeather and its right or not. I guess its in the gut. Im in love but its not right. Good men exist. Ive done everyting right and gone above and beyond. As a handsome successful and confident man I can assure you the confusion of mixed messages is something women should avoid. ... Hey, you want to go out?
I've been in my current relationship for 2 years on the 13th. But for the last few months I've been wondering if I should leave him. And I do feel guilty for having these thoughts, even though im not happy and I haven't been for a long time! He doesn't hold down a job and basically just lives off my income and constantly makes excuses for this but he's 32 years old and I think this is extremely unacceptable he becomes angry when I bring this up. And lately the last month maybe longer im not sure, I've just really started to notice it, he doesn't laugh at my jokes or even really hold conversations with me. I don't know what to do anymore I can't and shouldn't have to live like this! Your advice would be extremely appreciated! Please email me I need help / life advice! My email is klynnx3x@yahoo.com
Thank you for taking time to read this!
It is not always a matter of walking away, because love covers a multitude of wrongdoing and does.not keep record of wrong :-)
Some of your points are incredibly sexist. It screams "I have tits, give me free stuff!"
I'm in a relationship that I know is so unhealthy for me mentally, I've been loving this man for five years now and just when I think im strong enouggh to walk away and never look back. It seems as if he knows and he does something else to wow me.I love him but im sad also. I just want out!!!!!
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mr. bnyl 3 years ago
YOUR TIME -LINE IS UP...WALK AWAY AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
im not in a realationship but you know what im talking about but thats what im gone to do walk away and never look back at it.. i really think thats the best for me to do right now
Thanks alot